Many of my clients talk to me about making New Year's resolutions to bring about change in their lives, professionally and personally. I don't think we can separate the two. We live life by intention, either actively or passively. Intentions = results. It's not about resolutions that might get left by the wayside....it's about what do you intend to do about how you hold yourself, make choices and interrelate that will create the shifts you want to see happen? Here are (in my book) 15 absolutes. If you adopt even some of them, shifts will occur. If you adopt all of them, the shifts will be dramatic.
- If you make a commitment, keep it. If you can't honor it, then don't make it in the first place. That means considering what you have the capacity to do before committing. Which leads to...
- Don't take something on unless you can do it fully. It will not only negatively impact your reputation for excellence but take time, focus, energy and money away from what you could be doing really well.
- Let go of what others can do as well or better than you. Stick to what you're masterful at. Why be one of a million when you can be one in a million?
- Figure out what you have to let go of in order to free up space for opportunities. Too many opportunities are missed because they're put on the back burner for when you "have time". Too many opportunities are missed because you're so bogged down you didn't see them in the first place.
- Get out of your realm. See what other people are doing and living. Yes, hone your skills by being a continuous learner but check in with those you impact by the work you do. That's the best way to know what shifts you have to make to serve them better and, in turn, you'll be better for it. That's the road to mastery.
- Try something new every day…a food, another genre of music, speak to someone you've never spoken to before…..then reflect on the experience and learning.
- Say thank you.
- Ask someone to share their story.
- Book at least 15 minutes a day for reflective thought. 30 minutes is better.
- Figure out what limiting belief (one at a time) is holding you back. Then figure out what you have to do to let go of it. If you need help with that, get it. Holding on to limiting beliefs won't serve you. Period.
- Whatever you do for others, do it from choice not obligation. Both of you will know the difference.
- Do what really matters. Don't do what doesn't.
- Simplify. Just because life might be complex, it doesn't mean it has to be overly complicated.
- Give the gift of presence. If you're with someone, be with them.
- Take risks. Playing it safe isn't playing at all.
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